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[[File:He him lesbian.jpg|thumb|220x220px|The he/him lesbian flag.]]A '''he/him lesbian '''refers to a [[lesbian]] who uses he/him [[pronouns]] but is still a woman or woman-aligned. The term is used by women who are wlw ([[sapphic]]) and use he/him pronouns. Those pronouns can be exclusive or one can be [[Multipronouns|multipronoun]]. It is a more specific form of [[Pronoun Non-Conforming|pronoun non-conformity]] and [[crosspronoun]] usage. A he/him lesbian does not identify as male. They may acknowledge that they are female, but pronouns are usually inherent to specific identities. That being said, the pronouns one uses are another part of [[Gender Presentation|gender expression]], just like one's clothes or behavior. In the same way some [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] people are more comfortable using pronouns other than they/them, some [[Binary Genders|binary]] people feel more comfortable using pronouns other than the one's typically associated with their gender. |
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[[File:Simplifiedhesbianflag.png|thumb|An alternative, 5-stripe variant of the he/him lesbian.]] |
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[[File:5stripehehimlesbian.png|thumb|220x220px|An alternative, 5 striped version of the he/him lesbian flag.]]A 'disconnect from womanhood' is a common experience among he/him lesbians. Similarly to how lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a [[butch]], a lesbian may refer to themself by he/him to express this disconnect from their gender. This term is only used to identify people who do not consider pronouns to be explicitly linked to gender identity. |
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[[File:He him lesbian.jpg|thumb|The old he/him lesbian flag.|alt=]][[File:5stripehehimlesbian.png|thumb|An alternative, five-striped version of the old he/him lesbian flag.|alt=]][[File:AlternativeHeHimLesbianFlag.png|thumb|An alternate he/him lesbian flag design.|alt=]] |
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A he/him lesbian can be a [[cisgender|cis]] woman or a [[Transgender|trans]] woman. However, he/him lesbians don't always include trans women use who he/him pronouns purely because they are not out yet. He/him lesbians only include those who actively identify with and want to go by he/him pronouns for the most part. |
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A '''he/him lesbian''' or '''hesbian''' refers to a [[lesbian]] who uses he/him [[pronouns]]. It is a more specific form of [[Pronoun Non-Conforming|pronoun non-conformity]] and [[crosspronoun]] usage. A he/him lesbian does not necessarily identify as male, because pronouns do not always equal gender, but instead are another part of [[Gender Presentation|gender expression]] similar to one's clothes or behavior. |
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Other pronoun-gender contrasting identities include [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/She/Her_Gay she/her gay] people, [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/They/Them_Lesbian they/them lesbians], [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/It/Its_Gay it/its gay] people and [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/They/Them_Gay?venotify=created they/them gay] people. |
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== Controversy == |
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The existence of he/him lesbians has been the subject of controversy, more so than other pronoun-sexuality contrasting identities (excluding they/them lesbians). This is typically based on the misunderstanding he/him lesbian's gender identity and on the false assertion that a person's pronouns must be directly associated with their gender. |
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===Trans Men vs. He/Him Lesbians=== |
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The term "he/him" lesbian has been criticized by some trans men and allies as being disrespectful to them and Invalidating their experiences. Some have argued that people who identify as women and use he/him pronouns invalidate the dysphoria that trans people feel. |
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===She/Her Lesbians vs. He/Him Lesbians=== |
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Some she/her lesbians and allies have argued that the term invalidates she/her lesbians (due to the he/him lesbian experience of "disconnection from womanhood"), and romanticizes the past experiences of women forced to use he/him pronouns to avoid persecution. |
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In the same way some [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] individuals are more comfortable using pronouns other than they/them, some [[Binary Genders|binary]] individuals may feel more comfortable using pronouns other than the one's typically associated with their gender. Feeling a disconnect from womanhood is a common experience among lesbians, despite typically identifying as women through their [[sapphic]] attraction. Similarly to how some lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a [[butch]] to express this disconnect a lesbian may also refer to themself by he/him to express a disconnect from their gender. |
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The he/him lesbian flag was designed by Tumblr user Wuvsbian. |
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[[Neopronoun Gay|Neopronoun gays]], [[Neopronoun Lesbian|neopronoun lesbians]], [[She/Her Gay|she/her gays]], [[They/Them Lesbian|they/them lesbians]], [[It/Its Lesbian|it/its lesbians]], [[It/Its Gay|it/its gay]] and [[They/Them Gay|they/them gay]] identities exist through the same principle. |
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== Resources == |
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<references />[[Category:Identity]] |
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The he/him lesbian flag was designed by Tumblr user Wuvsbian on May 20, 2018.<ref>{{Archive|URL=https://wuvsbian.tumblr.com/post/174100520997/hehim-lesbian-flag-made-rainbow-to-encompass|Site=today}}</ref> The rainbow was used to encompass all the different ways he/him lesbians express themselves through sexual and gender identity. The colors were chosen to try to represent butch lesbians, [[femme]] lesbians, those who don't identify as either, as well as [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] lesbians. However, many he/him lesbians no longer resonate with this flag, as the creator no longer identifies as a lesbian nor uses he/him pronouns, as well as a lack of adequate meaning in regards to the stripes of the flags. |
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A new, more commonly used he/him lesbian flag was created by Twitter user laviatte on December 22, 2021 on a lesbian flag archive account under the name of lesflags.<ref>{{Archive|URL=https://twitter.com/lesflags/status/1473889247253856257?s=20&t=xZkNKupQS1fz3Kaz6vBVrA|Site=today}}</ref> The meanings of the flag represent unique gender expression, disconnection to womanhood, connections to masculinity, he/him lesbians under the transgender and non-binary umbrella, gender non-conformity, comfort in using he/him pronouns, and attraction to non-men. On July 12, 2022, a simplified 5-stripe version of this flag was created.<ref>{{Archive|Site=today|URL=https://twitter.com/laviatte/status/1546981456425000961?s=20&t=xZkNKupQS1fz3Kaz6vBVrA}}</ref> |
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==References== |
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[[Category:Pages With No History Section]] |
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[[Category:Fia/Fin Attraction]] |
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[[Category:Combination Identities]] |
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Revision as of 06:06, 22 June 2023
A he/him lesbian or hesbian refers to a lesbian who uses he/him pronouns. It is a more specific form of pronoun non-conformity and crosspronoun usage. A he/him lesbian does not necessarily identify as male, because pronouns do not always equal gender, but instead are another part of gender expression similar to one's clothes or behavior.
In the same way some non-binary individuals are more comfortable using pronouns other than they/them, some binary individuals may feel more comfortable using pronouns other than the one's typically associated with their gender. Feeling a disconnect from womanhood is a common experience among lesbians, despite typically identifying as women through their sapphic attraction. Similarly to how some lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a butch to express this disconnect a lesbian may also refer to themself by he/him to express a disconnect from their gender.
Neopronoun gays, neopronoun lesbians, she/her gays, they/them lesbians, it/its lesbians, it/its gay and they/them gay identities exist through the same principle.
Flag
The he/him lesbian flag was designed by Tumblr user Wuvsbian on May 20, 2018.[1] The rainbow was used to encompass all the different ways he/him lesbians express themselves through sexual and gender identity. The colors were chosen to try to represent butch lesbians, femme lesbians, those who don't identify as either, as well as non-binary lesbians. However, many he/him lesbians no longer resonate with this flag, as the creator no longer identifies as a lesbian nor uses he/him pronouns, as well as a lack of adequate meaning in regards to the stripes of the flags.
A new, more commonly used he/him lesbian flag was created by Twitter user laviatte on December 22, 2021 on a lesbian flag archive account under the name of lesflags.[2] The meanings of the flag represent unique gender expression, disconnection to womanhood, connections to masculinity, he/him lesbians under the transgender and non-binary umbrella, gender non-conformity, comfort in using he/him pronouns, and attraction to non-men. On July 12, 2022, a simplified 5-stripe version of this flag was created.[3]
References
- ↑ https://archive.today/https://wuvsbian.tumblr.com/post/174100520997/hehim-lesbian-flag-made-rainbow-to-encompass
- ↑ https://archive.today/https://twitter.com/lesflags/status/1473889247253856257?s=20&t=xZkNKupQS1fz3Kaz6vBVrA
- ↑ https://archive.today/https://twitter.com/laviatte/status/1546981456425000961?s=20&t=xZkNKupQS1fz3Kaz6vBVrA