Contrian

Contrian also known as Contraian is a term where one's attraction/orientation is/can be either/both solid, fluid, and/or fluctuating. This can be any attraction type (aesthetic, platonic, romantic, etc) and to all/most genders. Due to this, it can be hard to pin down or figure out one's attraction. The individual may be unable to tell if their attraction is solid or fluid/fluctuating. In addition, the attraction can be high or low and the user may have preferences. This may be due to the attractions going in different directions or there isn’t a sense of unity or similarity.

The user may or may not have attraction or a preference to the individual's gender but still have attraction to the way the individual presents. In addition, the user may or may not have attraction to the individual but having a connection to them may cause desire for some form of relationship.

One's gender may impact their attraction/orientation if they have a fluid/fluctuating gender, are multigendered, or have no gender for instance, they then are more likely to experience more fluidity/fluctuations in their orientation. Or with them being multigender, with each gender they may experience different attractions and their preferences and feelings changing depending on each gender experience. (See Idioromantic) For instance:

Gender 1 = Aromantic/Demisexuality/Bisexualty

Gender 2= Grayromantic, polysexual, Bellussexual.

Examples may include, but aren't limited to:

• The user is attracted to men, they are uncertain if the attraction is solid (static/unchanging) or fluid/fluctuating. For instance, the individual one day may experience an attraction level of 60% towards men but another day the attraction level is down to 40%.
• The user's attraction to their own gender may be solid, but has fluid attraction for the whole xenogender spectrum.
• The user has preferences for a handful of genders, or only experience it in little blobs to most genders other than their gender “opposite” in which they may experience more attraction.
• One experiences indifference towards their attraction, maybe due to certain attraction types themselves having fluctuations, or knows that they exist on the edge of these attractions. Their attraction/orientation may change depending on whether they experience queerplatonic attraction, romantic attraction, etc.

The ‘Contr’ comes from the Latin word of ‘Contra’ meaning ‘Contrast’

History

The term was coined by Arlo on June 9, 2024 on his Notion Page. He added the term to his Tumblr Blog Arlosworld91