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A '''he/him lesbian''' or '''hesbian''' refers to a [[lesbian]] who uses he/him [[pronouns]]. It is a more specific form of [[Pronoun Non-Conforming|pronoun non-conformity]] and [[crosspronoun]] usage. A he/him lesbian does not identify as male because pronouns do not always equal gender, however, the pronouns one uses are another part of [[Gender Presentation|gender expression]], just like one's clothes or behavior. In the same way some [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] individuals are more comfortable using pronouns other than they/them, some [[Binary Genders|binary]] individuals may feel more comfortable using pronouns other than the one's typically associated with their gender. Feeling a disconnect from womanhood is a common experience among lesbians- though they still identify as women through their [[sapphic]] attraction. Similarly to how some lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a [[butch]] to express this disconnect a lesbian may also refer to themself by he/him to express a disconnect from their gender. |
A '''he/him lesbian''' or '''hesbian''' refers to a [[lesbian]] who uses he/him [[pronouns]]. It is a more specific form of [[Pronoun Non-Conforming|pronoun non-conformity]] and [[crosspronoun]] usage. A he/him lesbian does not identify as male because pronouns do not always equal gender, however, the pronouns one uses are another part of [[Gender Presentation|gender expression]], just like one's clothes or behavior. In the same way some [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] individuals are more comfortable using pronouns other than they/them, some [[Binary Genders|binary]] individuals may feel more comfortable using pronouns other than the one's typically associated with their gender. Feeling a disconnect from womanhood is a common experience among lesbians- though they still identify as women through their [[sapphic]] attraction. Similarly to how some lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a [[butch]] to express this disconnect a lesbian may also refer to themself by he/him to express a disconnect from their gender. |
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A he/him lesbian can be a [[cisgender|cis]] woman or a [[Transgender|trans]] woman. However, the term he/him lesbians does not include trans women use who he/him pronouns ''purely'' because they are not out yet. The term he/him lesbian only include those who actively identify with and want to go by he/him pronouns. One can go by he/him pronouns exclusively, or one can be [[Multipronominal|multipronoun]]. |
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[[Neopronoun Gay|Neopronoun gays]], [[Neopronoun Lesbian|neopronoun lesbians]], [[She/Her Gay|she/her gays]], [[They/Them Lesbian|they/them lesbians]], [[It/Its Lesbian|it/its lesbians]], [[It/Its Gay|it/its gay]] individuals and [[They/Them Gay|they/them gay]] individuals also exist. |
[[Neopronoun Gay|Neopronoun gays]], [[Neopronoun Lesbian|neopronoun lesbians]], [[She/Her Gay|she/her gays]], [[They/Them Lesbian|they/them lesbians]], [[It/Its Lesbian|it/its lesbians]], [[It/Its Gay|it/its gay]] individuals and [[They/Them Gay|they/them gay]] individuals also exist. |
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== Controversy== |
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The existence of he/him lesbians has been the subject of controversy, more so than other pronoun-sexuality contrasting identities. This is typically based on the misunderstanding he/him lesbian's gender identity and on the false assertion that an individual's pronouns must be directly associated with their gender. |
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=== Trans Men vs. He/Him Lesbians=== |
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The term "he/him lesbian" has been criticised by some trans men and allies as being disrespectful to them and invalidating their experiences. Some have argued that individuals who identify as women and use he/him pronouns invalidate the [[dysphoria]] that trans individuals feel. |
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===She/Her Lesbians vs. He/Him Lesbians=== |
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Some she/her lesbians and allies have argued that the term invalidates she/her lesbians (due to the he/him lesbian experience of "disconnection from womanhood"), and romanticizes the past experiences of women forced to use he/him pronouns to avoid persecution. |
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==Flag == |
==Flag == |
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The he/him lesbian flag was designed by Tumblr user Wuvsbian on May 20, 2018.<ref>{{Archive|URL=https://wuvsbian.tumblr.com/post/174100520997/hehim-lesbian-flag-made-rainbow-to-encompass|Site=today}}</ref> The rainbow was used to encompass all the different ways he/him lesbians express themselves through sexual and gender identity. The colors were chosen to try to represent butch lesbians, [[femme]] lesbians, those who don't identify as either, as well as [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] lesbians. However, many he/him lesbians no longer resonate with this flag, as the creator no longer identifies as a lesbian nor uses he/him pronouns, as well as a lack of adequate meaning in regards to the stripes of the flags. |
The he/him lesbian flag was designed by Tumblr user Wuvsbian on May 20, 2018.<ref>{{Archive|URL=https://wuvsbian.tumblr.com/post/174100520997/hehim-lesbian-flag-made-rainbow-to-encompass|Site=today}}</ref> The rainbow was used to encompass all the different ways he/him lesbians express themselves through sexual and gender identity. The colors were chosen to try to represent butch lesbians, [[femme]] lesbians, those who don't identify as either, as well as [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] lesbians. However, many he/him lesbians no longer resonate with this flag, as the creator no longer identifies as a lesbian nor uses he/him pronouns, as well as a lack of adequate meaning in regards to the stripes of the flags. |
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