Arretaromantic is a romantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum in which one feels romantic attraction to a person who gives them attention. If another person gives this individual new attention or more attention, the individuals attraction to the previous person may fade or dull, and they will become more attracted to the new person. If nobody is giving said individual consistent/constant attention, their attraction will fade completely, or may weakly remain until a person gives them attention again. This identity can be caused by trauma, such as neglect, but anybody can use this identity if it applies to them.
While attention may be a natural motivator for many people, this identity is not just for someone who experiences romantic attraction to people who give them attention- it's for people who only experience romantic attraction after being given attention, making them aro-spec.
The sexual counterpart to arretaromantic is arretasexual.
History
Arretaromantic was coined along with arretasexual by FANDOM user MentallyUnstableQueer on January 27th, 2020 to describe his own feelings.[1]