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A '''they/them lesbian '''refers to a [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Lesbian [lesbian]] who uses they/them [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Pronouns [pronouns.]]. They/them lesbians may be a woman, [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/[Lunarian |woman-aligned]], or [[non-binary]]. The term can be used by any woman or non-binary person who is wlw ([https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Sapphic [sapphic]]) and uses they/them pronouns. Those pronouns can be exclusive or one can be [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Multipronouns [Multipronominal|multipronoun]]. It is a more specific form of [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Pronoun_Non[Pronoun Non-Conforming |pronoun non-conformity]] and [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Crosspronoun [Crosspronominal|crosspronoun]] usage. It is a common lesbian experience to feel disconnected from womanhood due to womanhood often being defined by relationships to men. Similarly to how lesbians might go by masculine/androgynous names, present as a [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Butch [butch]], or otherwise [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Gender_Non[Gender Non-Conforming |gender non-conforming]], a lesbian may refer to themselfthemselves by they/them to express this disconnect from their gender.
There also exists [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/[He/Him_LesbianHim Lesbian|he/him lesbians]], [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/[She/Her_GayHer Gay|she/her gay]], [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/[It/Its_GayIts Gay|it/its gay]] people, and [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/[They/Them_GayThem Gay|they/them gay]] people.
==<span class="mw-headline" id="He.2FHim_Lesbians_vs_Transgender_Men">They/Them Lesbians vs Nonbinary People</span>==
Some they/them lesbians are non-binary, but a they/them lesbian does not necessarily have to identify as non-binary. They may acknowledge they are female, but pronouns do not always equal gender identity, as a they/them lesbian is also more specific form of pronoun non-conforming lesbians.
It is a common misunderstanding that they/them and [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/He/Him_Lesbian he/him lesbians] "make the [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Transgender [transgender]] community and [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/[Non-Binary |nonbinary]] community look bad", but that is simply the fault of the people who refuse to think about the subject or break down the concept to understand it. Oftentimes, pronouns are gendered but in some cases they're not despite what society says. The pronouns one uses are another part of [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Gender_Presentation[Gender Presentation|gender expression]], just like one's clothes or behavior. In the same way some [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Non-Binary non-binary] people are more comfortable using pronouns other than they/them, some [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Binary_Genders[Binary Genders|binary]] people feel more comfortable using pronouns other than the one's typically associated with their gender.
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