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[[File:Nonamorous.jpgpng|thumb|220x220px268x268px|The nonamorous flag by Anonymous.|alt=A flag with three stripes. The colors are purple, pink, and yellow. In the middle is a stylized teal "V".]]
[[File:NonamorousNonamory altpride flag.jpg|thumb|220x220px|An alternate nonamorous flag by [https://deviantart.com/enbygsrd Enbygsrd].]]
[[File:Nonamorous alt.jpg|thumb|220x220px|An alternate nonamorous flag by Unknown.]]
'''Nonamory''' is a lifestyle choice that does not include intimate, long term partnerships. One does not need or want a boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner. They do not need or want a [[Queerplatonic Relationship|queerplatonic partner]], or platonic life-partner. One can be nonamorous regardless of romantic orientation, however it is most common among [[aromantic]] and [[Aromantic Spectrum|aro-spec]] people. Among non-aromantic people nonamory can be used to refer to someone who does not want a romantic relationship. Among aromantics it is most commonly used to refer to an aro-spec person who does not desire queerplatonic relationships, or similar long term partnerships. Some nonamorous people also do not desire significant platonic relationships, and may identify as [[aplatonic]].
[[File:Alt Nonamorous Flag.png|thumb|220x220px|An alternate nonamorous flag by [https://flippingpancake.tumblr.com/post/654348761212026880/id-three-similar-flags-with-a-few-difference FlippingPancake] ]]
'''Nonamory''' is a [[Relational Alignment|relationship orientation]] that indicates one does not desire intimate, committed, long-term partnerships. This can include [[romantic]], [[sexual]], [[queerplatonic]], or [[platonic]] life-partners.
Nonamorous peopleindividuals may instead decide to focus on friends or family, or they may choose to be solitary. Their life may focus on many fulfilling things such as hobbies, career, friendship, the arts, traveling, spirituality, social activism, learning, or more. They may or may not be sexually active.
Since nonamory is a lifestyle that one can choose, an alloromantic personindividual can choose to be nonamorous, similar to how an [[allosexual]] personindividual may choose to be celibate. A nonamorous personindividual feels the same way about romance and life-partnerships as a celibate personindividual feels about sex. However, it is most common among [[aromantic]] and [[Aromantic Spectrum|aro-spec]] individuals.
In some cases, it may be used interchangebly with [[afidelitous]], [[agamous]], and/or [[Non-partnering|non-partnering.]]
== History ==
Nonamorous was coined by Tumblr user Anagnori on December 1, 2013.<ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20150319031502/https://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/68737057155/nonamory</ref> The term originated from a conversation between them and the user Uselessladders.<ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20181216182823/https://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/68729400949/adding-to-the-aromantic-asexual-conversation</ref>
AroundOn summerDecember of 2019 the term nonamorous27th, along with other terms like it2018, wasTumblr criticizeduser byndnhawks part ofsuggested the aromanticterm community.nonamorous Theshould criticismbe stemmedreplaced fromwith theanother factterm, asserting that the termnonamorous implied that someone who is not nonamorous would be "[[amorous]]".<ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20230627011319/https://www.tumblr.com/ndnhawks/182808357531/aroatem-heyo-aros-ive-got-a-little-thing-here?source=share</ref> Since amorous and amory isare typically used to exclusively describe sexual or romantic relationships, this caused discomfort among parts of the community that would fall under this "amorous" label.
However, when potential alternatives to nonamorous were created, they were similarly criticizes,criticized. leavingThis left the nonamorous part of the community frustrated at not having an "acceptable" term to describe themselves., Thisleaving ledthem towith a language gap. In response, the user Arotaro replacingreplaced any instance of "nonamorous" with the self -introduction monologue of Greed from [[wikipedia:Fullmetal Alchemist|Fullmetal Alchemist]]<ref>https://arotaro.tumblr.com/post/185810716576/ive-decided-from-now-on-instead-of-trying-to-find</ref> to show the futility in trying to create perfect labels and the frustration of not being able to label themselves, as well as showing showing that the meaning of any given word is completely arbitrary. The quote goes ''"I’m Greed. I want everything you can think of: money and women, power and sex, status, glory, I demand the finer things. And of course I crave eternal life." ''
Ndnhawks later backtracked on their statement<ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20230627011226/https://www.tumblr.com/ndnhawks/186105702651/can-we-please-stop-throwing-words-around-and-just?source=share</ref>, and the controversy died down.
== Flag ==
The main nonamorous flag was designed by an anonymous user, submitted to beyond-mogai-pride-flags on January 25, 2019.<ref>https://beyond-mogai-pride-flags.tumblr.com/post/182310677230/ive-personally-had-some-problems-with-the</ref> The meanings are as follows:
The main nonamorous flag was designed by an anonymous used, submitted to beyond-mogai-pride-flags on January 25, 2019.<ref>https://beyond-mogai-pride-flags.tumblr.com/post/182310677230/ive-personally-had-some-problems-with-the</ref> The color meanings are as follows: Indigo represents the integrity nonamorous people show towards themselves in spite of social pressure to enter into [[monogamous]] relationships. Magenta represents compassion and solidarity between members of the nonamorous community as well as other people who struggle against the pressures of a [[Straight|hetero]] and monogamocentric society. It also represents the harmony we can achieve outside of ‘traditional’ long-term partnerships. Amber represents the joy, independence, and confidence nonamorous people harbor, both in non-monogamous relationships and with themselves, as well as solidarity. Turquoise represents the healing and self-sufficiency nonamorous people find as a community despite living in a world that treats them as ‘incomplete’ for not seeking out a monogamous partnership. The letter V was use to represent adventurousness and creativity in how nonamorous people relate to the world, and to represent how nonamory has long been in ‘uncharted waters’ in terms of general awareness and acceptance.
* Indigo represents the integrity nonamorous individuals show towards themselves in spite of social pressure to enter into [[monogamous]] relationships.
* Magenta represents compassion and solidarity between members of the nonamorous community as well as other individuals who struggle against the pressures of a [[Straight|hetero]] and monogamocentric society. It also represents the harmony we can achieve outside of ‘traditional’ long-term partnerships.
* Amber represents the joy, independence, and confidence nonamorous individuals harbor, both in non-monogamous relationships and with themselves, as well as solidarity.
* Turquoise represents the healing and self-sufficiency nonamorous individuals find as a community despite living in a world that treats them as ‘incomplete’ for not seeking out a monogamous partnership.
* The letter V was use to represent adventurousness and creativity in how nonamorous individuals relate to the world, and to represent how nonamory has long been in ‘uncharted waters’ in terms of general awareness and acceptance.
Before that, there waswere two other nonamorous flags. One was proposed by deviantart user enbygsrd on September 16, 2016.<ref>https://www.deviantart.com/enbygsrd/art/Nonamory-Pride-Flag-proposal-634770531</ref> The other is the greyscale flag that was made by an unknown creator on, or before, June 8, 2017.<ref>https://pride-color-schemes.tumblr.com/post/161766431588/nonamory</ref> The color meaning is as follows : Over the bars is a white “∅”, which is used as a null symbol, representing not wanting to have intimate long-term relationships. The colors are meant to represent sort of supporting yourself and being independent as well. ▼
Another alternate flag is a redesign of the main nonamorous flag by tumblr user FlippingPancake.<ref>https://flippingpancake.tumblr.com/post/654348761212026880/id-three-similar-flags-with-a-few-difference</ref> The color meanings are the same. Aside from the main one, there were two other variants. One more similar to the original, and one simplified version.
▲Before that, there was two other nonamorous flags. One was proposed by deviantart user enbygsrd on September 16, 2016.<ref>https://www.deviantart.com/enbygsrd/art/Nonamory-Pride-Flag-proposal-634770531</ref> The other is the greyscale flag that was made by an unknown creator on, or before, June 8, 2017.<ref>https://pride-color-schemes.tumblr.com/post/161766431588/nonamory</ref> The color meaning is as follows : Over the bars is a white “∅”, which is used as a null symbol, representing not wanting to have intimate long-term relationships. The colors are meant to represent sort of supporting yourself and being independent as well.
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