Aegoromantic

Aegoromantic or Anegoromantic, also known as Autochorisromantic, is a microlabel on the aromantic spectrum that describes those who enjoy the concept of romance but have a disconnection between themself and the subject of romantic fantasies. Aegoromantic individuals may have romantic fantasies, enjoy romantic media, or engage in shipping in fandoms, but they tend to feel little to no romantic attraction in real life and typically do not desire a romantic relationship. Oftentimes, their romantic fantasies are viewed from a dissociative third-person perspective, and not from the first person. They usually involve other individuals, such as fictional characters or celebrities with the aegoromantic individual only being a disembodied observer. Some common aegoromantic experiences include:

Enjoying romantic content, but lacking the same enthusiasm for a romantic relationship in real life.
Fantasizing about romance, but the aegoromantic individual is not involved, or celebrities, or fictional characters are involved.
Cannot imagine themselves in a romantic relationship, or doing romantic things, (like kissing and going on romantic dates), or in a marriage, or in living a whole life with someone.
Fantasizing about romance, but it is idealized and unrealistic. Adding realistic elements to the fantasy makes the idea of romance less appealing or even repulsive.
Perceiving someone as "attractive", yet not seeing the appeal of doing romantic things, like kissing, with the individual in real life. The aegoromantic individual may instead prefer to fantasize about them.

Aegoromantic may be similar to pseudoromantic, which describes an individual who experiences a non-romantic attraction which mimics romantic attraction, often by inducing romantic feelings.

The sexual equivalent is aegosexual.

History

The term Autochorisromantic seems to have been coined by tumblr user by tumblr user hunterinabrowncoat on July 18th, 2014, in the tags of a post discussing a potential romantic equivalent to Autochorissexual.^[1]

An alternative prefix to Autochori-, Aego-, was coined by Tumblr user Sugar-And-Spite in November 2014. It was made for those who found "Autochori-" to be difficult to pronounce, who disagreed with Dr. Anthony Bogaert's original definition, and who felt uncomfortable with the origin of "autochorissexualism" a descriptor for a paraphilia (which Asexuality was classified as at the time.)^[2]

Some individuals who identified with the term did not care about the negative association, others chose to reclaim the word, and still others chose to identify with the alternative label of "Aegoromantic".

Flags and Symbols

The first Autochorisromantic flag was made by tumblr user pridearchive on August 15, 2014. The colors are taken from the the Aromantic flag with the yellow stripe but inverted to represent the "inverted aspect" of Autochorisromanticism. It was made to parallel the original Autochorissexual flag.^[3]^[4]

The aegoromantic flags were coined by pride-color-schemes on June 26, 2016. They have no confirmed meaning.

The alternate flag was coined by Cryptocrew on February 26th of 2021. The shades of green represents romantic orientation while the black triangles represents a wall in between ones romantic attraction and themself. The grey X represents the greyromantic spectrum.

The other alternate flag was made by MYGENDERISNOANDYES‬ was made on June 7th 2022 and posted here on June 10th 2022.

The salmon colors represent the romantic ideals and the shades of gray represent lack of need or lack of attraction, the white color represents platonic relationships.

The first stripe with mostly dark gray with some dark salmon represents, liking the thought of romantic relationships.
The second stripe with mostly light gray with some light salmon represents liking the thought of romantic actions(Kissing, going on dates etc.)
The third stripe which is fully white represents platonic relationships.
The fourth stripe represents with mostly light gray with some light salmon represents lack of attraction or need for a romantic relationship.
The fifth stripe represents lack of attraction or need for romantic actions.

The aegoromantic symbol was created by Tumblr user satyrradio on July 19th, 2024.^[5]